BRIANNE DAVIS
RELATIONSHIP COACH (TRAUMA-INFORMED)
Brianne Davis
RELATIONSHIP COACH (TRAUMA-INFORMED)
When you're stuck in unhealthy patterns—whether it's toxic relationships, self-sabotage, addictive relationship behaviors, or battling intense internal conflict—it can feel like you're constantly fighting an uphill battle. But here's the thing: you don't have to keep repeating those cycles. I know what it feels like to be stuck in relationships that drain you—relationships that tug at your soul, drain your energy, and leave you chasing the high of validation, only to crash when reality hits. I've been pulled into toxic connections, into the drama, and into the emotional rollercoaster that can make you feel alive one minute and empty the next. Relationships can feel like any other compulsive pattern—they seem to fill the void at first, but over time, they erode your sense of self. I get it. I've walked that painful road of breaking free.
This program isn't about fixing you; it's about uncovering the strength that's always been there. Through my 14-step coaching framework, we'll examine the underlying relational patterns behind your struggles—whether it's the pull of unhealthy dynamics, codependency, or family-of-origin patterns. We'll work at the core level. It's about owning your story, understanding your past, but not being defined by it. There is no freedom in pretending these patterns aren't there. You can't change what you refuse to face.
We'll look at how your past influences your present and why you've ended up in situations that feel like a constant tug-of-war. We'll explore long-standing relational patterns and attachment dynamics that keep you cycling through emotional highs and lows.
I've worked with hundreds of clients who've been where you are. I've seen firsthand the toll that toxic relationships take, but I've also witnessed the power of real change—people reclaiming their peace, self-worth, and ability to build healthy relationships.
This program is for you if you're tired of barely getting by. If you're done living for the next hit of affection or validation that only leaves you empty. If you want to break destructive cycles and learn to build lasting self-respect and healthy connections.
The truth is, nothing changes unless you change. You can keep waiting for things to shift, or you can start doing the work today. I'll be right there with you, guiding you step by step—helping you clear out old patterns, face difficult truths, and build a life that no longer revolves around toxic, draining relationships.
You've got nothing to lose—except the patterns that are holding you back. So let's dive in, get to work, and start making the changes that will move you forward.
FOR INDIVIDUALS
FOR INDIVIDUALS
FOR INDIVIDUALS
Our individual process of relational growth is complex. It is patterned and influenced by a series of recurring interactions shaped both consciously and unconsciously by you. While it may feel as though you've been a victim of circumstances in your external environment, it's also important to examine how your own responses may reinforce unhealthy dynamics. This does not dismiss the reality that many people participating in difficult patterns have experienced deeply painful, and at times overwhelming, life situations. It simply creates space to explore the possibility of writing a new narrative for the rest of your life.
Individual coaching can take place once a week or multiple times per week, depending on your goals and what is realistically sustainable. Coaching is a structured, goal-oriented process. It helps clarify areas for growth, and together we create a practical plan of action.
FOR COUPLES
FOR INDIVIDUALS
FOR INDIVIDUALS
Couples coaching often has a broader and more multi-dimensional focus, particularly when addressing issues such as codependency coaching and love addiction recovery. When working with couples, goals shift based on the nature and intensity of the situation. For some, coaching can mark the closing chapter of a deeply tumultuous relationship characterized by narcissistic abuse recovery, which requires intentional rebuilding and recalibration. For others, it serves as fine-tuning key relational goals to improve communication and connection, contributing to overall relationship recovery. Whatever your collective goals, we ensure they are manageable, realistic, action-oriented, and grounded in mutual accountability, recognizing that a couple system requires two active participants. My work with couples includes an individual coaching component to support healing from sex and love addiction. Individual reflection and assessment are crucial in building a strong couples framework. As a neutral facilitator, I step into the partnership process and help you reframe and redefine your experience of one another. Couples coaching is designed to be time-bound and goal-oriented. We assess progress regularly and adjust based on both individual and shared participation. The goal is not to create a perfect relationship, but to develop healthier ways of navigating difficult situations together.
Secret life Books
SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT: A NOVEL
Written by Brianne Davis
Amazon #1 Best Seller
Imagine if Sex and the City's Samantha discovered she was a love addict and her drug of choice was MEN. Go on a hilarious, inspiring, and at times, shocking journey as Roxanne conquers her fears, embraces love addiction recovery, changes her ways, gets closer to healthy relationships, and begins loving herself a little more each day.
In this unique roman à clef novel, Brianne Davis shares her own intimate experience with the transformational power of recovery. With insights that resonate deeply, she provides strength and hope for anyone seeking guidance from a relationship recovery coach or navigating the complexities of narcissistic abuse recovery.
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“WOW! THIS BOOK! What a wild, raw, and as author Brianne Davis says, totally gnarly ride about a Hollywood sex addict—and her inspiring journey toward self-love, personal growth, and healing. It’s so different from what I usually read, but I really enjoyed it, and highly recommend you pick up a copy.”
—Emily Giffin, New York Times Best-Selling Author of The Lies That Bind
“A powerful, raw and vulnerable read. Brianne wrote a witty and captivating roman à clef novel based on her own bottoming out as a sex and love addict. I applaud her for going deeper to help others understand the often-misunderstood disease of sex and love addiction, and the importance of codependency coaching in the recovery process.”
—OLIVIA MUNN, actress, The Newsroom, X-Men: Apocalypse
BECOMING MY OWN F-ING SOULAMTE
Written by Brianne Davis
Now available on Amazon
A darkly hilarious novel about toxic relationship recovery, emotional sobriety, and the journey to becoming your own soulmate.
Roxie thought hitting rock bottom was the worst day of her life.
Turns out, the real nightmare begins when the chaos ceases—because now she has to confront the one person she’s been evading for decades: herself.
She survived the chaos. Now, she must navigate love addiction recovery and learn to live without the toxic relationships that once gave her an emotional high.
In Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate, Roxie focuses on her journey with the guidance of a relationship recovery coach and a supportive recovery tribe: CoolGirl grappling with charm addiction, GlamGirl reconstructing a life she burned down, TattooGirl hanging on by a thread, Alice insisting she’s “fine,” and Dr. Kath dismantling denial about narcissistic abuse recovery one uncomfortable truth at a time.
With no drama left to hide behind, every unresolved wound surfaces. Dating turns into a full-contact sport with ghosters, love-bombers, self-proclaimed spiritual gurus, and one man who brings his emotional support tarot deck. And when “Mr. Handsome” arrives—stable, grounded, and emotionally available—Roxie finds herself spiraling into the most difficult territory of all: real intimacy.
Ultimately, she confronts the fact that she’s the one she keeps abandoning.
“Smart, raw, and irresistibly candid.”
—Emily Giffin, New York Times Best-Selling Author of Something Borrowed
THE FANTASY LOOP™
When you're stuck in unhealthy patterns—whether it's toxic relationships, self-sabotage, addictive relationship behaviors, or battling intense internal conflict—it can feel like you're constantly fighting an uphill battle. But here's the thing: you don't have to keep repeating those cycles. I know what it feels like to be stuck in relationships that drain you—relationships that tug at your soul, drain your energy, and leave you chasing the high of validation, only to crash when reality hits. I've been pulled into toxic connections, into the drama, and into the emotional rollercoaster that can make you feel alive one minute and empty the next. Relationships can feel like any other compulsive pattern—they seem to fill the void at first, but over time, they erode your sense of self. I get it. I've walked that painful road of breaking free.
This program isn't about fixing you; it's about uncovering the strength that's always been there. Through my 14-step coaching framework, we'll examine the underlying relational patterns behind your struggles—whether it's the pull of unhealthy dynamics, codependency, or family-of-origin patterns. We'll work at the core level. It's about owning your story, understanding your past, but not being defined by it. There is no freedom in pretending these patterns aren't there. You can't change what you refuse to face.
We'll look at how your past influences your present and why you've ended up in situations that feel like a constant tug-of-war. We'll explore long-standing relational patterns and attachment dynamics that keep you cycling through emotional highs and lows.
I've worked with hundreds of clients who've been where you are. I've seen firsthand the toll that toxic relationships take, but I've also witnessed the power of real change—people reclaiming their peace, self-worth, and ability to build healthy relationships.
This program is for you if you're tired of barely getting by. If you're done living for the next hit of affection or validation that only leaves you empty. If you want to break destructive cycles and learn to build lasting self-respect and healthy connections.
The truth is, nothing changes unless you change. You can keep waiting for things to shift, or you can start doing the work today. I'll be right there with you, guiding you step by step—helping you clear out old patterns, face difficult truths, and build a life that no longer revolves around toxic, draining relationships.
You've got nothing to lose—except the patterns that are holding you back. So let's dive in, get to work, and start making the changes that will move you forward.
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
- You keep falling for the same type of person, even when you know better.
- You confuse intensity for intimacy — and wonder why it always burns out.
- When someone is available, consistent, and kind... it feels wrong. Or boring.
- You've done the work. You know your patterns. You still can't stop.
- You've called it chemistry. Your therapist calls it something else.
You're not broken. You're in the loop.
NEW BOOK COMING SOON!
MY RELATIONSHIPS ARE KILLING ME (BUT THEY FEEL LIKE LOVE)
The no-filter non-fiction companion to the Secret Life series. Eight of the most destructive relationship patterns — named, dissected, and dismantled. Battle-tested tools drawn from 16+ years of recovery and real client work.
Coming soon.
Published articles
I’m A Sex And Love Addict. Here’s How I Realized I Had A Problem.
I’m A Sex And Love Addict. Here’s How I Realized I Had A Problem.
I’m A Sex And Love Addict. Here’s How I Realized I Had A Problem.
“There’s nothing sexy or hot about using someone else to get high.”
Brianne Davis-Gantt
Guest Writer
Do me a favor. Think back to those first moments of falling in love with someone. Do you remember the tingles and the thrills when you saw or thought of them? What if they suddenly broke up with you and your relationship came crashing down? Or maybe you cheated on them, or they cheated on you — but you both stayed in the relationship. And even though you treated them like crap or they treated you like crap, you couldn’t stop being with them. You got back together like, eight times, and each time your self-esteem shrank.
Maybe you found another partner right away to take away the bad feeling. Or you started to stalk your ex everywhere they went. Maybe you even started to sleep with all their friends to get back at them. Or you followed their new lover on social media. Maybe you broke into their house and then set up spy cameras.
No? Did I lose you way back at “treating you like crap”? If that’s the case, it’s probably because you aren’t driven by compulsion and a disease called sex and love addiction. But I am.
Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict
I’m A Sex And Love Addict. Here’s How I Realized I Had A Problem.
I’m A Sex And Love Addict. Here’s How I Realized I Had A Problem.
In this excerpt from “Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Novel,” author Brianne Davis dramatizes how she overcame her addiction in a town where sex is a commodity.
Brianne Davis
Published Feb. 12, 2021
Give me a freaking break—I just turned 30, I was newly sober in Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), didn’t have a boyfriend, the television show I starred in had just got canceled and I was officially unemployed. To say I was a little depressed was underplaying the situation. More like I was miserable, lonely, and kind of tipsy from the afternoon champagne at the Hotel Bel Air.
A hotel is never a good place for a sex and love addict. Hollywood isn’t a good place for us either. A double whammy!
I headed up to the presidential suite for a nightcap with this successful trio—Coolgirl, Superstar, and his business manager, Suit. I knew no good could come from this situation, but I stepped into the lion’s den. I didn’t realize at the time that I was the poor little sheeple.
When we entered the suite, Superstar pulled Suit aside to tell him something important. Who knows what was transpiring over in that corner, but it did not look good.
I'm an addict - and my drug of choice is men.
I’m A Sex And Love Addict. Here’s How I Realized I Had A Problem.
I'm an addict - and my drug of choice is men.
Have you ever found yourself sitting in a dark hotel room with a coworker in a foreign city on a work trip about to blow up your life?
Brianne Davis
It was someone I hardly knew and quite frankly never liked as a person. You know that type of person— the one who's rude to waiting staff and thinks they're all that. That was me at one of my lowest points when I was thousands of miles away from my live-in boyfriend. I was then about to have another affair on a film set in the middle of nowhere.
I always fantasised about my life like a scene from a movie. One where the lead is in a different country, meets her knight in shining armour and falls deeply, madly in love and travels the world in luxury. And because that was my fantasy, that night on set I was about to go back to my old ways of cheating and lying. Something I had been doing for years. I looked at myself in that hotel mirror and saw the shell of the woman I had once again become.
I had always moulded myself into whatever and whoever my love interest desired me to be. I was always looking for someone to fix or complete me. As an actor, I wore many masks, playing cheaters and liars on TV and in films. But I probably wore more in my personal life.
Hollywood and Fantasy and Addiction, Oh My!
Hollywood and Fantasy and Addiction, Oh My!
I'm an addict - and my drug of choice is men.
Brianne Davis
Imagine if Sex and the City’s Samantha discovered she was caught in a web of love addiction recovery, with her drug of choice being MEN. Have you ever dreamed of being the high-society, sophisticated Allie to a handsome yet brooding Noah from The Notebook? Better yet, perhaps you thought someone had to bleed, take poison, or die trying—like in Romeo and Juliet—to prove that you’re true soulmates? This narrative often underlines the themes explored in codependency coaching and narcissistic abuse recovery, where many seek the guidance of a relationship recovery coach to navigate their feelings about romance and intimacy, especially when it touches on issues of sex and love addiction.
Top 5 NO-GO Movies For Sex And Love Addicts
Hollywood and Fantasy and Addiction, Oh My!
Top 5 NO-GO Movies For Sex And Love Addicts
Brianne Davis
Many sex and love addicts struggle to watch certain movies, which is why we refer to them as the NO-Go list. When I embarked on my journey of love addiction recovery with Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous eleven years ago, I had no idea that films could whisk me away into a realm of fantasy.
As a fantasy and intrigue addict, I recognize that this is no longer a space where I can reside. Roxanne, the anti-heroine in my novel, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, faces the same challenge. If you’re on the path of narcissistic abuse recovery or seeking guidance from a relationship recovery coach, you’ll understand the complexities of this struggle. Here is our list of No-Go movies! Enjoy the plight.
Secret Hollywood Show-Mances
Hollywood and Fantasy and Addiction, Oh My!
Top 5 NO-GO Movies For Sex And Love Addicts
Brianne Davis
One of my favorite pastimes these days is the act of revealing secrets—mostly my own! I find it fascinating to expose the hidden truths and the underbelly of our society, disclosing every kind of secret and shame we carry with us.
In the world of Hollywood, a common secret involves the unspoken behavior of on-set showmances. As I delved into my own secrets and experiences in the concrete jungle of the entertainment industry, I began to draw connections to themes of love addiction recovery and the impact of codependency coaching. I explored this secret society in my book, where I also touched on the nuances of narcissistic abuse recovery and the importance of seeking support from a relationship recovery coach. Understanding these dynamics helped me navigate my own journey through sex and love addiction, revealing insights that I hope resonate with others.
