RELATIONSHIP HEALING EXPERT
Most people find purpose in feeling loved or wanting to love others.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, “What is it that I’m really needing from this relationship?” More importantly, what messages have I been told about what it means to be loved? The template on relationships (romantic and otherwise) is different for everyone.
The “rush” of falling in love, the pain of feeling scared of losing love, the desperation in wanting something we feel we need to survive. All of this is built on an internal map, a diagram of how you are supposed to experience an interaction (even if harmful), versus what is healthy and sustainable.
Perhaps you are in a loving relationship for many years, and while no catastrophe has occurred, you feel stuck in your connection. You long for something that can once again make you feel alive and energized in your interaction. We change, we evolve, and so does our interests in how we choose to interact within and outside of our relationships. Understanding how to navigate in new waters while still rowing the same boat generally doesn’t work.
My purpose with you (individually or as a couple) is to take a 360-degree view of your life with you. To safely explore ways in which to dissect the underlying distress and rebuild through healthy patterns of thinking and behavior. While my personal journey with sex and love addiction might have some relatability, also know, that the purpose for us is to examine the other side of relationship dynamics, which can include co-dependency, loneliness, compulsions towards needing love, feeling misunderstood, scared to use your voice, desiring connection, or just simply learning how to love ourselves more than anyone else possibly can.
I hope this is an opening for us for discovery. My purpose is to co-create with you and find real, sustainable answers to the weight you have been carrying in your heart.
Certified Dialectical Behavior Therapy Professional (C-DBT)
Certified Trauma-Informed Recovery Specialist
Recovery Coach and Case Manager
Relationships have a variety of diverse interpretations. Drawn from previous experiences and imprinted narratives, then projected onto our daily experience, for better or worse. For some, it can be a re-creation of unhealthy patterns observed throughout their lifetime, while for others, it can be a way to protect oneself from the impending fear of feeling hurt or alone.
Coaching is a collaboration.
We work together to identify patterns, explore your motivations, and define a course of action. You are the expert of your life, and I am an active participant in your process of change.
Coaching is not therapy.
Coaching is action-oriented and based on gathering specific information and utilizing specific techniques to alleviate problematic behaviors.
Our individual process of relational healing is complex. It is patterned and pre-determined by a series of predictable interactions orchestrated consciously and unconsciously by you. While one may feel as though they have been a victim of the circumstance of their outer environment, one must also examine where their behavior reinforces unhealthy and damaging experiences. This does not diminish the fact that usually, individuals participating in maladaptive patterns have had deeply wounding, if not profoundly traumatizing situations. This simply provides a runway for exploring the possibility of a new narrative for the rest of your life.
Individual coaching can be done once a week or several times a week. It is dependent upon our collective goals and what can be realistically achieved. Coaching is an intervention strategy. It defines your areas of further growth, and we co-create a plan of action.
Couples coaching has a greater and sometimes more multi-dimensional focus. When working with couples, the goals shift based on the nature and acuity of a situation. For some, coaching can be the end point of a deeply tumultuous relationship which needs some significant repair and rehabilitation. For others, it is just fine-tuning key relational goals to improve interactions. Whatever your collective goals, we ensure that it is manageable, realistic, action-oriented, and accountable. The system of a couple requires two active participants.
My work with couples involves an individual component. The individual assessment in coaching is key to building the couples framework. As an unbiased representative, I join in the partnership and help redefine your experience of one another. Couples coaching is meant to be time-bound and goal bound.
We assess progress and adjust based on the individual and collective participation. It is not to create a perfect situation; instead it's discovering new ways to perfectly handle difficult situations.
Get an emotional tune-up! Based on the 10 Rules from Brianne Davis’ #1 Best Selling novel, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love addict, learn how to improve your relationships, stop destructive behaviors, release shame and embrace self-love.
Let’s blow open the doors off of our trapped, unique personas! The goal is to create a safe environment to break down your walls, see your shortcomings and false beliefs, shed your “masks,” and discover your authentic self. The workshop will be highly experiential; participants will explore exercises and receive emotional homework to complete before the next class. By the end of the last session, you will better grasp approaching relationships, self-love, and moving closer to your dreams.
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*Experience with celebrity clientele, high net-worth individuals and couples.
Do me a favor. Think back to those first moments of falling in love with someone. Do you remember the tingles and the thrills when you saw or thought of them? What if they suddenly broke up with you and your relationship came crashing down? Or maybe you cheated on them, or they cheated on you — but you both stayed in the relationship. And even though you treated them like crap or they treated you like crap, you couldn’t stop being with them. You got back together like, eight times, and each time your self-esteem shrank.
Excerpt from “Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Novel.”
Give me a freaking break—I just turned 30, I was newly sober in Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), didn’t have a boyfriend, the television show I starred in had just got canceled and I was officially unemployed. To say I was a little depressed was underplaying the situation. More like I was miserable, lonely, and kind of tipsy from the afternoon champagne at the Hotel Bel Air.
Have you ever found yourself sitting in a dark hotel room with a coworker in a foreign city on a work trip about to blow up your life? It was someone I hardly knew and quite frankly never liked as a person. You know that type of person— the one who's rude to waiting staff and thinks they're all that. That was me at one of my lowest points when I was thousands of miles away from my live-in boyfriend. I was then about to have another affair on a film set in the middle of nowhere.
Imagine if Sex and the City’s Samantha discovered she was an addict and her drug of choice was MEN? Have you ever dreamed about being the high-society, proper Allie to a gorgeous but brooding Noah in The Notebook? Better yet, maybe you believed that someone had to bleed, take poison or die trying like in Romeo and Juliet to demonstrate that you’re true soulmates?
Many Sex and love addicts can’t watch certain movies. We call it the NO-Go list. For me when I started the program of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous eleven years ago, I had no idea that movies would transport me into completely fantasy.
As a fantasy and intrigue addict, that is not a place I’m allowed to live anymore. Roxanne, the anti-heroine, of my novel Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict has the same problem. Here is our list of No-Go movies! Enjoy the plight.
One of my favorite past times these days is the act of revealing secrets. Mostly mine! And exposing the underbelly of our society through disclosing every kind of secret and shame we carry around with us.
One of the most common secrets in Hollywood is the unspoken behavior of on-set show-mances. As I pulled back the curtains of my own secrets and life in the concrete jungle of the entertainment business, I wrote about this secret society in my book.
Written by Brianne Davis
Amazon #1 Best Seller
Imagine if Sex and the City's Samantha discovered she was an addict and her drug of choice was MEN. Go on a hilarious, inspiring, and at times, shocking journey as Roxanne conquers her fears, changes her ways, gets closer to healthy relationships and begins loving herself a little more each day.
In this unique roman à clef novel, Brianne Davis shares her own intimate experience with the transformational power of recovery, providing strength and hope for anyone who wants to change their life forever.
“WOW! THIS BOOK! What a wild, raw, and as author Brianne Davis says, totally gnarly ride about a Hollywood sex addict—and her inspiring journey toward self-love, personal growth, and healing. It’s so different from what I usually read, but I really enjoyed it, and highly recommend you pick up a copy.”
—Emily Giffin, New York Times Best-Selling Author of The Lies That Bind
“A powerful, raw and vulnerable read. Brianne wrote a witty and captivating roman à clef novel based on her own bottoming out as a sex and love addict. I applaud her for going deeper to help others understand the often-misunderstood disease of sex and love addiction.”
—OLIVIA MUNN, actress, The Newsroom, X-Men: Apocalypse
Hosted/Produced by Brianne Davis
Top 100 Personal Journal Podcast on Apple
Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, food, addiction, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful.
Every Monday, best-selling author and actress, Brianne Davis, pulls back the curtain on the deepest, darkest, heartbreaking, and even silly secrets from an eclectic group of guests. While sharing her own secrets in each episode, Brianne's disarming approach creates an intimate and safe space for her guests to bare their souls, uncover the truth, and share practical advice. And just like that, we're laughing, crying, inspired, and filled with hope.
The Grace of Vulnerability
A true space for letting things out, letting things go, and sharing secrets with the world. So special how Brianne created a space for people to feel safe and vulnerable.
Audible Shock Therapy at Its Best
What a raw and fascinating way to present such poignant topics. Nobody wants to talk about these issues Brianne covers and on Secret Life - and yet she guides them through the conversations in a safe and meaningful way.